Crystal Healing: The Nitty Gritty Before the Shiny Pretty

I see you. You are new to the world of crystals and you are enchanted by these amazingly beautiful stones. And when you find out they can be powerful tools of manifestation and healing you get even more excited. We’ve all been there. I get it. We’ve all come home with bags of gorgeous pink, purple, and rainbow colored shiny stones, our hearts filled with excitement about how they will draw love, passion, protection, and abundance into our lives and at the same time make our wallets a little emptier. You carry them in your purse, your bra, and surround your home with them. You probably went through crystal websites and books looking for your favorite stones and what they do. It seems so matter of fact. You want love? Rose Quartz. You want protection? Tourmaline. Healing? Amethyst. Sometimes it is that simple…but if you are embarking on a journey of healing, life changes, or a new level of consciousness sometimes you need to stop and cut through the glimmer of those pretty stones to get to the heart of the matter and the core of what is keeping you from having the things that you are now in search of.

Healing and the changes that accompany it while necessary, are often not pleasant experiences. Sometimes they require deep introspection. It requires facing truths about ourselves that we may have spent a lifetime avoiding. We may have to revisit traumatic events or experiences that we had no control over but have left us unable to fully shine the Divine light that we all have inside.  As we take the journey toward being healed we can use holistic methods to help us stay aligned and gain greater peace and insight. Although crystal healers are not doctors who can make a  medical diagnosis or prescribe medications, we sometimes energetically can tell when there is something deeper to look into.

When clients come to me for Reiki and crystal healing I listen to not only what they say but what they don’t say.  I feel energetically what they are unknowingly carrying like a thick blanket. It’s like a heavy, dark vibration and sometimes an invisible armor that they have created to protect themselves. This is familiar territory for me. I’ve been there and I’m surely not alone. Some of the most positive and light filled people you meet have at some time had to look down into the darkest depths in order to transform their lives.

When I bring crystals into the equation I am looking for what will open you up energetically to what you need to facilitate healing. So while you may want pink stones, you might need to do some heart healing or tend to some wounds from past relationships before we create a wall of rose quartz around you. Why do you feel you are lacking love? Is it a lack of self love? Is it a fear of being loved? Maybe a different stone will better deal with these issues.

For example, rhodonite is a heart healer. It brings to the surface the emotional wounds of the past so that you can examine them and make changes. It brings you back to the center during stressful times. It calms emotional shock and panic and provides grounded support during the process of dealing with painful issues. It helps you to forgive and see both sides of a situation. Clients who wear rhodonite for heart healing will sometimes say the stone is too heavy.  That’s because it’s awakening a vibration that they might not be ready to confront. The stone isn’t heavy. The emotional baggage it is releasing is.
This might not be a rosy fun experience for you. But it’s necessary to be able to receive the love you are looking for.

The same goes for crystal grids. Grids amplify your intentions and create a movement and vibration around you to eventually manifest what you want. The hardest custom grid request to fill? Drumroll……….

The Love Grid.

Do you want a love grid because of numerous failed relationships? Are you dealing with a divorce or break up? Are you lonely? Are you repeating the same patterns and getting nowhere? Is there sexual trauma or abuse? Sometimes it’s best to start with a grid that will help you work through what is causing you to be out of alignment in the first place.

If you have low self esteem and feel intimidated or undervalued in your life or relationships, I would recommend a grid that combines red jasper with a solar plexus stone like citrine or sunstone to boost your confidence and open you up to receiving joy and love of self. Red jasper is a courage stone. The warrior stone. It empowers you and grounds you in confidence and encouragement. I might even throw in a soft protection stone like jet. Most people reach for black tourmaline to block negativity. But we aren’t blocking. We are transforming into someone more powerful and jet has the ability to draw out the negative energies that are lingering in your auric fields. Jet can give you physical, emotional, and spiritual guidance that will help you accomplish your goals and achieve balance and harmony. It can reveal how to come out on top during difficult times.
Think of it like this…you can block your ex-partner’s juju with black tourmaline all around you but you are blocking their negative energy now. Jet however, clears your auric field of all the dirty smog they left you with from prior experiences. Kind of like burning sage in your home.

Speaking of blocking bad juju…let’s talk about protection from “toxic” people. I get that request a lot. But again…let’s look deeper before we start packing our bras and pockets with black tourmaline and obsidian. Why do you feel under attack from toxic people? What is toxic? Are they draining you? Are they narcissists? Is your intuition or sense of self out of balance and it’s hard to clearly see who is not in alignment with you? You may need to do some grounding work or work on enhancing your intuition and ability to protect your energy at all times. Maybe high vibrational selenite and third eye loving labradorite would help. Maybe even a combination with amethyst for it’s healing and intuitive properties. You can enhance clarity with sodalite or fluorite. All of these things in combination with the psychic attack blocking abilities of black tourmaline might be what you need.

Crystals definitely carry vibrations with a specific properties that you may desire. But in order to get there you might need to look deeper. Take some time. Breathe. Meditate. Clear your mind and look inward. Step back from situations and examine your feelings…and enlist a certified crystal healer to help you find the combination of stones that will create the vibration that works best for you. This isn’t magic (well it kinda is) but we all possess the ability to change and transform our lives at any moment.

You are more powerful than you could ever imagine!

 

Janice B. is a Usui/Holy Fire II Reiki Master Teacher & Certified Crystal Healer

For more info:Janice B. Reiki Website

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Feeling Their Pain, Healing Their Energy

janice b feeling fine still editI was driving on the beltway making my way from my parents’ house to my job in Landover, Maryland like I did most days.   I was about 19 years old.  I was halfway to work when a sudden feeling took over my entire being.  I don’t know how to explain it other than to say it was a feeling of incredible sadness and heartache.  It was physical and heavy.  It overwhelmed me while I was driving and I didn’t understand why I was feeling this way.  Stranger still, at the moment I started feeling this immense sorrow the name of a boy I went to elementary school with came into my mind as clear as a bell.  Tommy Stevens*.  I hadn’t seen, talked to, or thought about Tommy in over a decade.  Although he was a nice kid, we were never close friends and I had no idea where he went after our few years together in elementary school.  The feeling passed as quickly as it came and I didn’t give it much more thought as I arrived at work.  About a half hour into my shift my mother called me and before we hung up she said “Oh by the way, I don’t know if you remember him from elementary school or not but I heard today that Tommy Stevens died.  They found his body in the Anacostia River.”

I’ve always been able to “feel” things from people.  I can sense when something isn’t right, when someone can’t be trusted, or if the person is carrying some unresolved pain or grief.   And  incidents like the one about Tommy Stevens have happened too many times in my life for it to be a coincidence.  Too many times I’ve been taken over by a dark emotion attached to a name or vision of someone, or their home or family only to find out later that someone died or was hurting or going through a significant loss or upheaval.  Someone I would have no reason to “feel” or think about.  I don’t talk about this much.  On the rare occasion that I recount these incidents I am often met with disbelief and doubt.  I understand that response because I myself have doubted if this is really happening.  Is there some logical explanation that could make sense as to why I am feeling something so real and painful from someone I don’t know?  In the case of Tommy’s death I’m not sure whose sadness I was feeling.  Was it his mother’s loss of her son?  Was it the emotions my mother felt upon hearing the news?  I won’t ever know.

Some people would call this intuition. That is the term that is tossed around most often but what I experience is much more intense.  I know my father was very intuitive.  He could keenly sense if someone wasn’t on the “up and up” as he would say.  He never discussed it deeper than that but he was always in tune with what he felt from people and he never doubted his feeling.

Later in life I understood myself to be an empath, a person who can sense/feel and sometimes take on the emotions and pain of others.  The list of empath traits sums me up quite well but I don’t usually hang on to what I am feeling.  I experience it very strongly and clearly and can now recognize when it’s not my own pain I am feeling.  However, looking back at my life it would explain a lot of things I experienced that seemed bizarre at the time.  I would have extreme anxiety over going to places with big crowds of people.  Panic attacks that upset my stomach and tightened my chest.  Empaths aren’t fond of large crowds because they can often feel everyone’s emotions.  I would sometimes feel sad and overwhelmed for no apparent reason.  I thought I was going through a depression or I was just over stressed from work.   Looking back I can guess that perhaps I was feeling someone else’s emotions but I just wasn’t aware of what was happening at the time.

The empath title fit me quite well until this June when I started my journey to become a reiki practitioner.  I explained some of my experiences to my teacher who said that I may be a clairsentient.  This was my first time hearing of this term.  I had of course heard of clairvoyant which is “clear sight”.  Clairsentience is translated as “clear feeling”.  The definitions of empath and clairsentient are very similar and I’m certain that both can apply to me.  Empaths take on the emotions of people around them.  They may feel the need to help or fix that person.  They are often sought out as the person to confide in or unload upon.  They get overwhelmed in large chaotic crowds.

Clairsentients are highly sensitive to their surroundings.  Not just the feelings of the people around them but also the location itself.  They can sense when something bad has happened somewhere and they can think of someone that isn’t around them and inexplicably know how they are feeling.  They can touch an object and feel the person who owned it.  I’m certain that I am a combination of both empath and clairsentient.  TV and movies have made these traits seem otherworldly and even “spooky” but the truth is, everyone has some level of these abilities.  We are all born with gut instincts and intuition.  But as we get older and more distracted we are conditioned to not pay attention to what we intuitively feel.  This is unfortunate because it could definitely assist us in making better decisions and even help keep us safe.

Over the past two years first with the loss of my father in 2014 and the passing of my mother in hospice in my home this April, I seemed to have “opened up” more to this level of consciousness.  I am very aware of their energy around me and this has changed how I view many things in my life now.  As I mentioned before, in June I decided to pursue training to become a Reiki practitioner.  If you aren’t familiar, Reiki is an ancient Japanese laying-on of hands healing technique that uses the life force energy to heal, balancing the subtle energies within our bodies. Reiki addresses physical, emotional, mental and spiritual imbalances.  I felt that this was a natural practice for me.  If I’m going to have these metaphysical abilities I certainly want to use them to help people.  And after years of intuitively feeling the pain and emotional states of other people, I know I can also assist in making them feel better.  This is not a religion or medical practice.  It doesn’t require the client to “believe in” anything however being open and receptive will certainly help the flow of energy.   I also truly believe that many “physical” ailments that we suffer from are often caused by emotional stressors and things we are holding onto in our hearts and spirits.  I’m finding that my intuitive knowledge of a person’s well-being combined with Reiki can help people heal themselves.

After I received my Reiki attunement from my teacher in June, I felt an immediate surge of heat in my head, heart, and hands.  Since then I have found myself more in tune and aware.  People seem louder and more intense.  Best of all my life purpose is finally clear to me.  I’ve been connecting with people through music and song for over a decade now.  This is naturally the next step for me.  My teacher said she feels that I have the ability to be the bridge between dark and light.   That I have a great understanding of the pain and darkness but also the ability to guide people to healing and light.  This is my intention.  The journey begins….

 *names were changed for confidentiality